Here, we speak to the experts to find out how to nurture the intimacy in your relationship during coronavirus. At the beginning of lockdownquips about a quarantine-induced baby boom seemed constant as n ews headlines feverishly predicted that all anyone would be doing in lockdown is jumping into bed with each other. You might have even experienced a friend or relative virtually elbowing you in the ribs as they enquired, one eyebrow raised, how you and your partner would be spending all this time indoors. Speaking to stylist.
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Sex researcher at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, USA, Justin Garcia, reports that a study of global sexual habits from mid-March to mid-May shows that nearly half of the couples surveyed said that had less sex during the pandemic, and that the sex they did have, they enjoyed less than usual. Nia Williams, relationship coach at Miss Date Doctor, agrees, telling s tylist. The strain of the pandemic has left many filled with anxiety and higher stress levels.
No matter how much you love someone, spending lo of time together constantly will put a ificant strain on your relationship. Speaking to s tylist. During lockdown these have, of course, all been taken away from us meaning that our senses, which are so crucial to our sex lives, are depleted.
Nicholl also explains that in accordance with this, desire and sex usually thrive in an environment of the unpredictable and novel, which is hard to create in day to day domesticity and while being shut inside. While feeling less groomed or less attractive than usual can also make us less likely to initiate sex.
On a deeper level, Nicholl also suggests that spending an excessive amount of time inside can remind us of our childhood, when the family home would have been the centre of our lives. It is not sexy because it reminds us, usually unconsciously, of being in our family of origin.
The domestic environment is very triggering for behaviours learnt in our childhood that are not going to work in adult relationships. Nicholl has two main points of advice for couples looking to readdress their sex life.
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Scheduling is known to lower anxiety and stress. Sex will not just happen organically. Your pleasure is important and getting into your body means you will feel sexier. We all crave novelty, so we need to be creative.
For smell, I suggest lighting candles, wearing a fragrance, scented body cream or anything that arouses you or your partner through smell. Touch is sensual and is foreplay and can be very intimate so I would recommend massaging each other.
Sight is a stimulus, too, so change what you usually wear and plan to wear something that makes you feel good. Play around with the lighting; light candles, maybe change your light bulbs to enhance the mood. You need to create an environment that stimulates your desire and sexuality.
Finally, taste — food can be sexy so cook together.
Relationship coach Walford has some advice, too. We do the same with people. When you connect with your own sensuality, suddenly being locked in a house with the person you desire becomes an opportunity to play and explore.
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