If you want to know how others treat you, the best starting place is to look at how you treat others. And if you don't like the way you're treated, there's only one course of action--to change your own behavior, because you can't change anyone else's.
in. Also, I have a tough time verbally articulating the values that mean the most to me, and writing helps me express those values to the people that mean the most to me. Think about others the way you want to be thought of. Feel about others the way you would want others to feel about you. Speak to others the way you want to be spoken to. But what about something less obvious, like if the person crossed a certain boundary or indirectly caused you or someone else harm?
One of the few rules I try to live my life by, and fail every day trying, is the Golden Rule.
I love the simplicity of the Golden Rule, its tendency to make I interact with happier … and its tendency to make me happier as well. People will treat you better too, certainly. Beyond that, though, you will find a growing satisfaction in yourself, a belief in yourself, a knowledge that you are a good person and a trust in yourself. Those are not small dividends.
They are huge. And for that reason — not even considering that our world will be a better place if more people live by this rule — I recommend you make the Golden Rule a focus of your actions, and try to live by it to the extent that you can.
I will admit that there are strong arguments against the Golden Rule, that there are exceptions and logic arguments that the Golden Rule, taken to extremes, falls apart. The truth is, on a day-to-day basis, living by the Golden Rule will make you a better person, will make those around you happier, and will make the community you live in a better place.
post: 12 Ideas for Establishing a Calming Routine. Make it a habit to try to place yourself in the shoes of another person. Any person. Loved ones, co-workers, people you meet on the street. Really try to understand, to the extent that you can, what it is like to be them, what they are going through, and why they do what they do.
And when you can, take even a small action to somehow ease their suffering in some way. How would you want to be treated? So when you put yourself in their shoes, ask yourself how you think they want to be treated. Ask yourself how you would want to be treated if you were in their situation. John F. Kennedy did that during the controversial days of de-segregation in the s, asking white Americans to imagine being looked down upon and treated badly based only on the color of their skin.
He asked them to imagine how they would want to be treated if they were in that situation, and act accordingly towards the blacks. Be friendly.
When in doubt, follow this tip. You should also be friendly within the bounds of appropriateness. Be helpful. This is probably one of the weaknesses of our society. Sure, there are many people who go out of their way to be helpful, and I applaud them. But in general there is a tendency to keep to yourself, and to ignore the problems of others.
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Be courteous in traffic. Another weakness of our society.
So try to be courteous in traffic. Listen to others. Another weakness: we all want to talk, but very few of us want to listen. And yet, we all want to be listened to. So take the time to actually listen to another person, rather than just wait your turn to talk.
Overcome prejudice. But try to see each person as an individual human being, with different backgrounds and needs and dreams. And try to see the commonalities between you and that person, despite your differences. Stop criticism.
So hold back your criticism, and instead learn to interact with others in a positive way. Trust me. This is a difficult thing, especially if we are conditioned to control people. Give that to others then. Be. The urge to control and criticize is especially strong when we are adults dealing with children. Put yourself in the shoes of that.
Remember what it was like to beand to be criticized and controlled.
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How would you want to be treated if you were that child? Send yourself a reminder.
yourself a daily reminder use Google Calendar or memotome. Tie a string to your finger. Perhaps a fake golden ring on your keychain? A tattoo? The Golden Rule makes a great mantra, and a great poster.
Rise above retaliation. This is natural. Resist that urge. Does that mean you should be a doormat? Be the change.
Gandhi famously told us to be the change we want to see in the world. Well, we often think of that quote as applying to grand changes, such as poverty and racism and violence. Well, sure, it does apply to those things … but it also applies on a much smaller scale: to all the small interactions between people. Do you want people to treat each other with more compassion and kindness?
The golden rule: treat others the way you want to be treated
Then let it start with you. Notice how it makes you feel. Notice how your actions affect others, especially when you start to treat them with kindness, compassion, respect, trust, love. But also notice the change in yourself. Do you feel better about yourself?
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More secure? More willing to trust others, now that you trust yourself? Say a prayer. There is a prayer on the Golden Ruleattributed to Eusebius of Caesarea, that would be worth saying once a day.
May I reconcile friends who are mad at each other. May I, insofar as I can, give all necessary help to my friends and to all who are in need. May I never fail a friend in trouble.