Chivalry is dead, well at least it seems like it. I stopped focusing on finding a boyfriend.
I wanted a boyfriend so badly that I accepted anything that resembled a relationship. For example, I was calling the guy I hung out with once a week to make-out with my boyfriend — uh, crazy.
I started to make a concerted effort to fill my life with friends, family and hobbies and interests that enriched who I was and let guys fall into the background. Turns out, that made me way more attractive to the opposite sex.
Who knew? Once, I told a guy I liked that I wanted an actual relationship and he gave me one. Sometimes you just have to tell people what you want, no matter how scary that may be.
I avoid one-night stands and quick hookups at all costs. I make them work for it.
I refuse to meet up with guys after 10 p. Remember, nothing good happens after midnight.
If he wants to see me at night, he needs to be willing to put in time during the daylight hours. I started calling guys out on their BS. Some guys really think that sitting on the couch watching Netflix is the same as going out to see a movie. I was seeing a guy whose idea of a date was taking me to meet his friends at a sports bar — I was basically one of the guys, except that I had a vagina.
I only agree to plans that have been made ahead of time. I know I sound like a broken record, but a guy really does have to put in some effort to be with me. If he wants to see me, he can make actual plans with me. I keep my confidence high. I know what I deserve. I had to realize my worth, and once I did, I stopped seeking attention from douchey guys with bad haircuts.
Then one day, justified and all, i decided i would sit in the things that i was doing wrong.
Plus, it has the unintended side effect of making guys way more attracted to me. This is a big one! He got what he wanted. I want him to notice my more important qualities. I remember that actions speak louder than words.
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Just …. Jordan White Jordan White is a lifestyle, sex, and relationship freelance writer with a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about. She is based in Scottsdale, Arizona and despises the heat more than anything.
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This is what i told myself and others for the majority of my life when they would ask me why i don't have many female friends.
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